I understand that while not everyone likes big, hairy, or even fat guys, that doesn't mean that you have to bash on things that you know nothing about. I base my friendships, and my relationships with my other bear friends as pure, and "brotherly". Because that's how we feel about each other. We feel we are brothers. We have each others' backs by any means necessary.
I don't like to judge anyone based on what their preferences are, neither their looks.
All bullshit put aside, we are here to make friends, and to try to unite a community in a way that we gain respect for doing so as well.
I don't know about you guys, but it feels nice to walk into one of the bars/clubs, and people see you, and say "Hey Mr. Bear" or "Papa Bear" or "Daddy Bear" or even "The Bears are here!". You know why? Because we make our presence known by how we act towards EVERYONE.
We're not assholes, we're not conceited, and mostly, we are not judgmental. We feel that we've earned the community's respect by our fundraisers, our parties, our cookouts, get togethers, and being there for one another. We treat each other with respect.
Yes, I know that I'm chubby, or even fat if you want to call me, but I'm damn proud of it.
I have no reason to hide who I am or what I like.
I will always LOVE hairy guys, whether they are fat, muscular, or chubby, and nobody should judge me based on that, just like I don't judge you for being skinny or thin, wearing make up, or even wearing heels sometimes... That's your choice and I applaud you for being so courageous for taking the initiative to be seen like that in public. If you love it, good.
Just don't flaunt it like you're the greatest thing that ever happened.
Nobody's perfect. I know I'm not.
While being a bear is NOT JUST about masculinity, ruggedness, and pride, why would you solely base your opinion JUST on that, and not look at all the other great things that bears are.
If you're ever hungry, you know WE WILL GO EAT.
If you ever feel like having a drink, you know WE KNOW HOW TO DRINK.
If you need help with something, some of us know how to be mechanics, plumbers, artists, accountants, and even nurses!
My point is, just be happy. Don't be negative. Live and Love. There's so much wasted energy when a person acts negative towards people, and it shouldn't be that way. Much love my friends...