Dear Whoever The Fuck You Think You Are,
I would like to personally congratulate you on making an ignorant and idiotic page on Facebook, promoting nothing but hate, selfishness, and ignorance. If you're wondering who I'm talking about, it's you; Gay Confessions El Paso.
It's bad enough some people in the gay community are full of hate, bitterness, and resent... By you making this page, you're making all these feelings grow bigger. I thought we were supposed to be a community that's respectful, eager to make new friendships, and in the long run, get acceptance in any way possible. Do you realize the message you are bringing to younger generations with your hateful posts, and your negativity?
Not only does it piss me off that you're talking bad about a group that you probably know nothing about, but you're insulting my friends, my community... My brothers. The Bear Society has made themselves known for being more than a social group. We are more than friends. We consider each other brothers.
I find it quite interesting that you would post a picture of my friends, who love and respect their relationship, but yet you bash it, trying to compare it to something that has nothing to do with other bear communities. The reason why people belong, or want to be part of The Bear Society, is because they like Bears, identify with them, or feel comfortable in one way or another. They like feeling the love, respect and unity that the group brings.
Yes, while El Paso is still trying to grow in many ways, I don't think it's fair for you to judge people based on their appearance. We started small, but have done things to earn the respect of the community. Last weekend, we had a fundraiser for one of our brother's mom. She is currently a Stage 4 Cancer patient, and you should have seen how much support our brother got for his mother. He even received additional donations from people we don't even know.
I care a lot about my brothers, and I will do anything for them. I'm not about bashing other people, or insulting their efforts to make either a community or their business grow, and I don't think you should either. Before you judge anyone or start saying mean, derogatory things, you should get to know them first. You don't know all the effort that goes into making a change for the better, and clearly, you don't appreciate it either.
I hope that in the near future, you will find peace in your heart, and see that your efforts to bash people in a negative way will take you nowhere, and leave you with a lot of people disliking you.
I understand that while not everyone likes big, hairy, or even fat guys, that doesn't mean that you have to bash on things that you know nothing about. I base my friendships, and my relationships with my other bear friends as pure, and "brotherly". Because that's how we feel about each other. We feel we are brothers. We have each others' backs by any means necessary.
I don't like to judge anyone based on what their preferences are, neither their looks.
All bullshit put aside, we are here to make friends, and to try to unite a community in a way that we gain respect for doing so as well.
I don't know about you guys, but it feels nice to walk into one of the bars/clubs, and people see you, and say "Hey Mr. Bear" or "Papa Bear" or "Daddy Bear" or even "The Bears are here!". You know why? Because we make our presence known by how we act towards EVERYONE.
We're not assholes, we're not conceited, and mostly, we are not judgmental. We feel that we've earned the community's respect by our fundraisers, our parties, our cookouts, get togethers, and being there for one another. We treat each other with respect.
Yes, I know that I'm chubby, or even fat if you want to call me, but I'm damn proud of it.
I have no reason to hide who I am or what I like.
I will always LOVE hairy guys, whether they are fat, muscular, or chubby, and nobody should judge me based on that, just like I don't judge you for being skinny or thin, wearing make up, or even wearing heels sometimes... That's your choice and I applaud you for being so courageous for taking the initiative to be seen like that in public. If you love it, good.
Just don't flaunt it like you're the greatest thing that ever happened.
Nobody's perfect. I know I'm not.
While being a bear is NOT JUST about masculinity, ruggedness, and pride, why would you solely base your opinion JUST on that, and not look at all the other great things that bears are.
If you're ever hungry, you know WE WILL GO EAT.
If you ever feel like having a drink, you know WE KNOW HOW TO DRINK.
If you need help with something, some of us know how to be mechanics, plumbers, artists, accountants, and even nurses!
My point is, just be happy. Don't be negative. Live and Love. There's so much wasted energy when a person acts negative towards people, and it shouldn't be that way. Much love my friends...
So just yesterday, we got an email from one of our visitors to our website, and here's what it said:
"Why is a bear society here in El Paso so concerned with sex, drinking and other illicit activities. Yet no other beneficial activities have risen?"
We take this kind of comment seriously, because we don't want anyone to be thinking something different than what it really is about our organization.
We all talked about it, and here's what we have to say about it.
Dear Concerned Bear,
In reference to your concern for a “Bear Society here in El Paso”, We’d like to make clarification to which bear organization you have concerns about. To be quite honest with you, this could be any bear group since we know of several in El Paso. On behalf of The Bear Society of El Paso, we would like to clarify with you if you any misconceptions in reference to our organization. For starters, it’s in your best interest to address this matter by possibly supporting your “concern”, directly to the organizations founders with substantial details. So many people in El Paso criticize the gay scene on how superficial everyone is and how everyone is focused on the wrong things. Most of those people who complain about it ADD to the drama and the superficiality and illicit activities, so it’s possible that you might have been misinformed. In addition, this would be great feedback for the organization to be informed about any misconceptions of its image.
Groups and organizations are run the way they see fit. Unfortunately, since there are other groups out there with “illicit” agendas, we or other bear/gay social groups cannot be held accountable for their actions or activities. As many organizations, The Bear Society is governed by its members and bylaws. Under Sec. 2.0 of Memberships, we hold accountable anyone who is not upholding their membership responsibility. Since TBS in the early stages, of becoming a respected organization, any ideas you see may be helpful, feel free to join and draw your own conclusion about the group.
Furthermore, inform the organization about your ideas and what you consider “other beneficial activities”. Currently, we are working on fundraisers to support a cause. It takes a lot of time to develop a website, Facebook page, bear shirts, bear magazine, etc. As you may very well know, in the business world it takes money to make money. Our developer and President, Alejandro, takes a lot of pride in his work and is always up for suggestions and opinions from individuals as yourself. We would like to personally extend an invitation to you, not only to join our events, work outs, brunches, and social gatherings, but also a chance to know us as well. Unfortunately, many individuals believe that filling out an application is plenty to become part of our organization/group. Individuals are highly encouraged to take part socialy. Ensure we get your contact information and stay connected to receive the invite for our Meet & Greet event. We will post the time on our website very soon, and see for yourself the close knit of friends which are there for one another. Best of luck to you, with hope that Concerned Bear turns into Carefree Bear in the future.
The Bear Brothers of The Bear Society